When you think of manipulation you think that would Never happen to me, I mean how could and seriously why would someone even waste their time doing this? Well let me tell you, that they do!
I was with someone for over 5 years and I did not know who that person was until she ripped that mask off at the end. I will post a series of blogs depending on the interest in this blog.
This is obviously the first.....so here it goes....
The idealization period:
When I first met her, I didn't like her. Something was off. I couldn't put my figure on it but something was just plain off. Everyone around me said she is just so good to you. So I kept dating her. She would bring me food and cater to my every need. Give me money and buy me gifts. She took me to an extravagant weekend to Chicago and it was like wow this so is so awesome she just likes me so much. I admit I loved the attention but she was creating an envision of herself that wasn't who she was. I didn't know that at the time.
There was one red flag I noticed at first, I hadn't been to her house. So when I mentioned this she said, " I have a friend staying with me and she has a daughter and I told her she needs to get out of the house soon but she can't find a place. She said that she will be out soon. I understood that but thought it was weird. I let it go and by that Friday I was in her house.
After our Chicago trip I decided I did really enjoy being around her and I started to let her in my very high guard that I put up. She would feed me chocolate covered strawberries in the bathtub and was just such a romantic which I am a sucker for.
I admit I fell in love quickly and after 8 months I fully moved in. (She moved all of my things in while I was at work on day, she wanted me in immediately). This was the start of the trap.
So once I moved in with her she would get up in the morning and make my lunch for me and see me off to work. She would prepare dinner for that night ( we worked different shifts). Just very sweet things.
That red flag I spoke about.........I knew her ex girlfriend had a daughter and I knew her ex-girlfriends name. I had a knock at the door. It was the neighbor kids, they told me they missed the little girl that lived there ( which I thought was her friends child). I asked for the child's name and sure enough it was her ex's child. So it wasn't her FRIEND that lived there. It was her GIRLDFRIEND and her child.
I called her at work and told her I would be out by the time she returned. She flew home from work that day She said it was true but they weren't together and that she just wouldn't leave. She said they hadn't been together since we had been dating. I knew I should leave right there but I didn't. This story gets better and better and there is so many twists and turns and manipulation tactics that I didn't even know this girl who I dated for 5 years.
She also had this best friend that I met and she would come and see her. I will get into all of that later. This was a very painful story but there are a ton of laughs throughout and I am still smiling at the end. See some people want to break you, and when they cant you win. I cannot wait to the rest of it but lets see if anyone is interested in hearing it!
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