Devalue Stage

So after the lunches stopped being made and after the "fakeness" wore off just a little bit more and more bizarre things started to happen.

 

One night when we first were together I was living with her at the time and I was asleep. I had to work at 8 and she didn’t go in until around noon or so. She was up going through my phone. She went through my phone and found that I had talked to other people. I did NOTHING just talked. Before she could ever let me explain she just assumed the worst of me. The way she woke me up was the strange part. She through the blankets on and blasted the lights started yelling. Talk about being in a deep sleep and then that goes down. Your freaked out, scared, vulnerable. That happened a few other times. This was her scare tactic and it worked. I feared going to bed sometimes just wondering what she would find that she could wake me up and I knew from that first night that if I ever left her there was going to be hell to pay. I look back now and realize this is complete lack of trust, respect, and common courtesy. I also know now that this was her conditioning me.

 

There were two things that we fought about: her hours and the fact that I loved to travel. I didn't like that she worked 2nd shift and I knew how smart she was. I tried to push her to do better. She made better money than I did but it wasn't about that, I wanted to see her. I wanted to eat dinner together. Every time I brought this up I was putting her down. I would tell her how smart she is and all the potential I could see in her. I can see her point here but she would say "I bring in all the money, who pays the bills". It was just another way to put me down.

The other thing was traveling, which happens to be a passion of mine. She would tell me how dumb it was and a waste of money. I would have to agree to pay for everything to get her to go. She would eventually fork out some money and have a good time but there was always something about her. It was a passion of mine but it was dumb..... She told me that when I had a seizure, I scarred her for life.......like I wanted to do that.

I am a lesbian, btw, doesn't make any difference but when the story gets good it wouldn't make sense.

So she had this best friend that she told me they had messed around before.......but were never together and just friends. This is the same girl that she left me for. This is the same girl that she kicked me out of the house to have this girl move from Chicago and into her house. They were together before I ever left and that is when the mask fell off.......

It was the end of the July and my girlfriend went to visit her “family”. She came home that morning and said we need to talk. I said about what (through texts and I am at work). She said nothing we will talk later. Now after someone tells you that you have to know something is up. She finally broke up with me through text. I left to go home to work and she started blaming things like not leaving the shower door open when showering because it was “growing mold” So anyways I finally found out the truth. I found out through an email......an email of a receipt of a toy that was sent to Chicago to be delivered by Friday to that girl's house and that is also where my ex was going. What a great way to find out.

 

So she had this best friend that she told me they had messed around before.......but were never together and just friends. This is the same girl that she left me for. This is the same girl that she kicked me out of the house to have this girl move from Chicago and into her house. They were together before I ever left and that is when the mask fell off.......just wait....it gets better.